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You'll generally pay more for a house that has three or more bedrooms than you would pay for a two bedroom house. Few times when that might not be the case are when you buy a fixer upper or when you move into a house that was willed to you.
Why you shouldn't limit your spare room to another sleeping space
A house with several bedrooms offers more sleeping space. You can entertain more in a multi-bedroom home, offering your guests a place to sleep without your guests having to reserve a hotel room. When your children are young, you might readily spot advantages to living in a multi-bedroom house. For starters, your children won't have to:
- Double up in the same bedroom, potentially reducing the numbers of arguments and fights that your kids have with one another
- Sleep at the foot of your bed, a sure way to a poor night of sleep which can affect your children's school performance
- Struggle to get comfortable while they sleep on the living room sofa or on a hard roll away bed
- Lie about being comfortable in the extra bedroom, especially if your spare bedroom is small
After your children grow up and leave home, you might feel like your house is too big. You might start hunting for a small home or start thinking about renting an apartment.
What you might not do is brainstorm for ways that you can get the best use out of your spare bedroom. Here's some help. To avoid falling into the rut of thinking that a spare room that you aren't making good use of is making your house too big, consider:
- Turning your spare room into a yoga or exercise room (Stretching could be another activity that you could use the spare room at your house for. The older people get, the more important it is to stretch to offer the body more flexibility and balance.)
- Adding plants, positive scents, candles and colors to the room and using it as a place to meditate
- Launching your business out of the spare room that you now use as your home office
- Planting vegetables in the room to grow your own organic vegetables
- Installing wall to wall bookcases in the room to create your own full-size home library
Present and future uses for a spare room
Just because your children have grown into adults and moved out of your house doesn't mean that your house is too big. It doesn't even take a lot of effort or hours of brainstorming to surface ideas of what you could do with your spare room.
Design the additional space finely and your spare room could turn into your favorite room at your house. And, of course, you can always use the space as a guest bedroom, especially if you install a pull out bed against a decorative wall. Furthermore, you may not think of it now, but your adult children or their children might end up spending a night or two in the spare room years from now when they visit during holidays or other family events.
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Excitement and the chance to live in a better neighborhood and a house that meets all of your family's needs and wants isn't the only thing that packing and moving brings. Moving to a new house can bring feelings of insecurity, uncertainty and even anxiety. You're not the only one who might experience feelings of unease as a house move nears. Your kids might feel stressed about the change.
How moving to a new house could unnerve your kids
If your kids have gone through just one unpleasant change, they might associate change with unwanted experiences. Whether you realize it or not, your kids could think that moving to a new home will bring bad changes their way. For example, your children might create images of not:
- Fitting in with kids who already live in the new neighborhood
- Seeing their current friends, the kids who live in the neighborhood you're leaving, again
- Adjusting well to attending a new school
- Feeling left out as they become the "new kid" everywhere they go
These fears can create physical symptoms. Your children might:
- Feel nauseous
- Experience significant appetite changes and eat more or less
- Struggle to get a good night of sleep
- Sleep more than normal as a way to avoid dealing with unwanted thoughts and emotions
- Spend more time alone as they ponder the many experiences that the move could create
Helping your kids enjoy a stress free house move
To reduce your children's stress, include them in move discussions. Start talking with your kids about a house move as soon as you start giving serious consideration to relocating. This helps your children to feel heard and important.
Talking with your children about moving to a new home lets your children know that their thoughts about moving really matter. It gives your kids a voice.
Fortunately, there are more ways to help your kids adjust to a house move. You could:
- Take your kids with you the next time you visit neighborhoods that you're seriously thinking about moving to.
- Let your children know what each member of the family can do to make the move smooth
- Point out great features of the new house
- Highlight advantages that your kids can gain from the move (e.g. more sports events, better schools, more entertainment options)
- Plan moves when your children don't have other major events going on in their lives
- Ask your children to share their thoughts and feelings about the move with you (but, don't pressure your kids to talk)
- Observe your kids and offer assistance and support as needed (For example, you might share uneasiness that you feel about packing, meeting new neighbors and getting accustomed to a new work commute.)
Stress free house moves for kids don't happen on their own
Bills, house repairs and hours of heavy lifting and packing may cost you sleep as you prepare to move into a new house. You might even think that your spouse and you are the only people who are losing sleep because you keep thinking about what will happen after you move. But, you'd be wrong. Your kids might be worried about the move.
Start talking to your kids early about house moves to reduce, and maybe even eliminate, house move worries. Also, take other focused actions to make moving to a new house and neighborhood stress free for you and your kids.
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